The blue circle on the left can hardly intersect with the red circle on the right.We went for a house-warming party recently. We caught up with friends from our university hostel days.
Most are married with kids,
some are attached and still pondering whether it is a good idea to get married,
some are married and still pondering whether it is a good idea to have kids,
some want to stay single by choice,
some are still single, forever ready to find the Mr/Mrs Right to get attached.
Now that I belong to the ‘Married with kids’ group, I ponder upon how my single friends look at me.
I remember those days when I was still single. It was really hard to meet up with friends or colleagues who were already married with kids. They always give reasons such as having to fetch their kids to music classes, swimming lessons and so on. Gone were the days when you can sit down with them bitching about work and girls over long session of beer or coffee. And after a few attempts of futile invitation, you just prefer to meet up with other single friends. As the days go by, there are fewer and fewer single friends to hang out with.
Okay, let’s just say that our married-with-kids friends refused to be tied down with the task of looking after the kids. So he tries very hard to leave his wife and kids at home to hang out with you. Soon after a few rounds of drinks, unless he is truly not interested in building any relationship with his kids, his consciousness and guilt will take its toll on him to make him scurry back to his home before the fun is over.
Honestly, now that I have become a married-with-kid friend, my focus is really in building great relationship with my boy. That means spending time nurturing him, starting from basic toilet training to instilling good behaviours. Until my boy is independent, my own enjoyment would have to take second priority.
My wife and I love to watch musicals. When we wanted to watch ‘Forbidden City: Portrait of an Empress’ and invited our other friends to go along, to our surprise, they have already bought their tickets without us! Why? Oh, we thought that you are still in confinement. You have to take care of your baby. Most likely, you won’t have time to go with us.
Yes, they belong to the blue and green circle above, alright.
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Isn't also amazing that those of us in the Red circle most often have no interest in being part of the Blue and Green circles?
Since u are a husband, i would like to ask your opinion. What would u do if your job requires u to travel 2-3 weeks with a day or a week's interval spent with your spouse and child and u stay in an end lot house where your wife and baby are quite isolated from your neighbours.The house at the back is empty (overseas hubby only comes back when there's long weekends and wife stays with her parents), on the left is an empty house with no grills and your neighbour's contractor will start renovating in the 8th Chinese Lunar Calendar and on the right is the side lane. There are many Indonesians living in those houses under renovation some roads away. There is a security guard situated at the entrance of the housing scheme that is 2 roads away. But recently sport shoes and men shoes placed at your porch or shoe rack had been stolen. Your wife voiced her concern on their safety. What is your opinion on this matter? Any concerns? Knowing that Indonesians next door watch every activity of your wife's and baby's. What would you suggest or have in mind? You have told your wife not to worry and asked her to call the guards 2 roads away if the alarm goes off in the middle of the night or if there is house break-in/ intrusion. Would your recommendation be sufficient peace of mind of their safety? Could u bear the thought of your wife and baby both sleeping together in your house, doors locked, alarm armed but Indonesians are next door and sleeping at the containers and temporary "rumah setinggan" nearby. The question is are they safe? Do u worry about them when u r away? Are there any risks? Is there an alternative? You can't be at your wife's and baby's side all the time so u told your wife off "Pandai-pandailah u jaga diri dan baby".Your wife suggested having a dog but u rejected as u hate dogs..they r a burden and u don't want to have them around.
To Dennis:
Thanks for your comments all this while.
To answer your question, yes. That's why they are linked like what is portrayed in the diagramme.
To Anonymous:
I am not sure what you are trying to get at. But I will for sure move my wife and baby to another place that can give us all peace of mind. Maybe like your neighbours at the back, stay with your parents. Or ask parents to come and stay with you.
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